Yes I am in recovery AGAIN. Not drugs or alcohol though that may be easier if not at least more specific. I go knowing I am not okay. That I need ? well I don't know what I need BUT I guess God does.
Lats week in my homework I read a paragraph that made me write
WOAH next to it. A little to close to home for me. The paragraph is from a book called The Christan Co-dependance Recovery workbook on Page 34 I read this................................................
It is important to understand that the female role is at it's core function one of receiving ,
just as the male role's primary function is that of giving.
While the husband carries the weight of the responsibility, she is in a much more vulnerable position.
She must receive what the man in her life gives her in order to function properly in her role. That doesn't mean she isn't a healthy and whole individual, it simply means that her own responsibilities are dependent on whether or not he fulfills his.
Many times women want financial Independence and the other freedoms in a marriage for this
reason-they'd rather not have to be dependent on a husband.
However logical it might sound, ( and women who have been hurt by a man may have a very justifiable reason) it will never lead to the type of marriage God intended.
That's because her role is different than his. If they are both in the
same roles, the female role may get neglected and the male role might get diminished.
I
was hired for a job and I have been waiting on my start date.
I received a call the same day I read that paragraph that there was something in my background check I failed to mention. Shoplifting in 1995. Looks like I am not getting this job... oh opps for my self righteous attitude towards my husband that I will be working. Humbled.
Sidenote
Confession I did shoplift and paid fines for outfit that I did not get to keep, spent a day in jail. MISTAKE.
